People ask why this topic: The reason being is that this is usaully a topic not dealt with until it is too late.
Someone is seriously hurt, someone is in jail, and families are broken up.
How does this little 5 letter word cause such damage?
Well, I believe the main reason is that ANGER is left unattended. Sometimes ANGER is so mild that it isn't recognized as a problem.
Here is where you have your classic situation of MISDIRECTED ANGER (Anger left unattended or not dealt with the person or situation that caused it.
Based on my observations the most ANGER is caused in the work place.
An employee is upset about a situation with their boss.
For fear of reprisal they do not deal with the situation.
This starts the ball rolling into a build up.
They get in their car and someone cuts them off.
Not intentional, however, this builds'up more and starts festering, (By the way this causes your basic ROAD RAGE) now they go into the store the clerk isn't as pleasant as the person thinks they should be.
And boom they start yelling about the person being rude and uncourteous.
Maybe they were a little, however, not to the extent that warranted this outburst.
This now goes back to the first situation with the boss that was not dealt with.
Even worst thay do not deal with the situation with the clerk.
Now they have a build up of several incidences not properly dealt with or channeled.
Now for the worse scenario. they arrive home and the family is glad to see them.
However, someone does something not really bad , but could be a little annoying and they explode.
Now as far as they can see there isn't any real danger of letting their ANGER out.
Say it is a man and he gets into an agument with his wife.
They get a little too close(now remember they didn't deal with the boss-maybe scare of losing their job-didn't deal with the car that cut them off because they couldn't-didn't deal with the clerk because it didn't seem that important.)
However, built up anger now explodes again and they aren't scare of any consequences, shoving starts, wife falls down and hits her head. Hits that soft spot that everyone has and dies. Wife/Mother dead, Husband/Father in jail. Children witness the whole thing and have to live the rest of their lives seeing their father kill their mother.
A little extreme but possible. This is a classic case of Mis-Directed ANGER-check your prisons. There is a population of people who didn't mean to do it. This could have been the scenario.
Even worst is the person who try to drink their problem away and drive after drinking and hit someone. Maybe they black-out(Can't remember what happened) spend years in jail and will never even remember the incident.
What do you think about that 5 letter word now? A N G E R
Death-How do you feel about DEATH?
Well, for one I never get used to it. The circumstances usually determine the grieving process. I am sure it is different for everyone.
When grandma died when I was ten and nobody properly explained the grieving process I was very very upset. Even MAD-It isn't easy to lose your very best friend in the Whole Wide World.
Then every two years for the next six years to lose a significant person in your life isn't easy grandpa (he basically just gave up after losing his sweetheart of 40 years-guess she was his best friend also).
Then to lose your favorite aunt. I can't even begin to explain those feelings.
Then your father who gave you the love of baseball and told the best bed time stories (never from a book).
Along the way losing your favorite mother (what else is there but a favorite mother). Then your favorite uncle.
Life has a way of taking it tolls.
Now what led to this is losing a friend.
I have lost quite a few friends over the years-due to some illness or that illness (does it matter what the illness is when the end results are all the same).
Some stick out more than others though. Like my buddy who wouldn't listen to the doctor who told her just one (1) more cigarette and it is OVER. Didn't listen to the doctor. Didn't believe the doctor. And at the tender age of 27.
Do you smoke? Do you listen to your doctor? What do you do when the doctor smokes? Anyway that is another article.
Watching people fight for their very existence, not giving up until that last breathe is taken-is what I am used to. Never give up.
To see someone give up-turn on themselves-murder by their own hands **SUICIDE**. That hurts-not as bad though when you know the whole story.
My friend died recently; however, I know he put up a fight. The decision wasn't based on giving up. It was based on a disease-the disease of DEPRESSION-the hospital stay, the psychiatrist, and the medication that was fighting back. Because I seen the fight even though I feel bad I am not devastated. It is hard fighting a disease. Something going on inside-places where no one can see. To the best of my knowledge doesn't even show up on X-ray. Unlike cancer where there is a chance it can be cut out by surgery DEPRESSION is internal- DEEP INTERNAL. In the recessive of the mind.
Maybe, just maybe working in the medical field for over 25 years, I have a better understanding of the disease of depression than the average person on the street.
Most people do not even understand the disease. They just see the behavior-the actions of the person and go by that.
Well, buddy I knew your zest for life when the disease wasn't rearing its ugly head. I will miss our conversations. Your stubbornness. Your strong headedness when you "thought" you were right. Even the moments when you "were" right (I keep wanting to put this in present tense) and the other person just doesn't want to give in. (LOL) Always a conversation never an argument. I need a moment even good memories are..............
I'll miss your laugh my friend. May the GOD of your understanding find a soft place for you to rest. The battle is now over. God has personally taken another soldier under his personal care. Maybe you can find someone there you can beat at chess.
I'll try not to take this too hard. I hope to be able to speak with your children to be able to explain the difference between the behavior of a person and someone suffering from a DISEASE. Is 45 to young yes, but not to a DISEASE.
This was written by a friend because their are many friends who are overlooked when their friend die because all eyes are on the family-And rightfully so-But the friends goes through moments not the same as family but moments never the less.